Free-mixing of opposite gender is the source of impurity....

If we say that it is not good for male and female to mix freely if they are not married to each other; then many people may disagree with us.
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We know that their mind also protests against such impure free-mixing, but yet, their running after the desire is persuading them to support such impure thing.
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So, to prove that free-mixing between opposite gender is incorrect, first, we are giving some references here. If anyone thinks that we are not correct, then he/she is welcomed to refute our response.
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=> First Reference
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**Reference from Indian Philosophy:
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Indian Philosophy has given the world their analysis regarding sexual matter in many scriptures.
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One of the scriptures regarding such issue is *Kamasutra* which is very famous worldwide.
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It is mentioned in Kamasutra,
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"At the first time of sexual union **the passion of the *male* is intense, and his time is short,**
but in subsequent unions on the same day the reverse of this is the case.
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With the *female,* however, it is the contrary, **for at the first time her passion is weak, and then her time long**,
but on subsequent occasions on the same day, her passion is intense and her time short, until her passion is satisfied."[1]
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***So, from here, we can say that man's desire comes instantly and also goes instantly; whereas woman's desire comes gradually and goes gradually.***
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For this, if a man and a woman(especially out of blood relation most of the time) become close to each other, the man can be attracted to the woman within a very short time(due to the quick response of sexual hormone), whereas the woman *may not* be intensely attracted to that man(due to the slow or less fast response of sexual hormone than man).
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When the woman goes away from the man, his(that man's) desire and attraction becomes decreased or less than before.
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For example, when a boy-friend with her girl-friend roams here and there, the boy-friend gets intense attraction towards his girl-friend within a few moment, but the girl can not feel that because of her slow-process arousing of desire.
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The same process is occurred during sexual intercourse also. It is further mentioned in Kamasutra,
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"***In the beginning of coition the passion of the woman is middling***, and **she cannot bear the vigorous thrusts of her lover**, but by degrees her passion increases until she ceases to think about her body, and then finally she wishes to stop from further coition."[2]
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So, from here, we can say that mixing freely with opposite gender increases a natural strong sexual attraction in the mind of males (in most cases) towards the females.
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=> Second Reference & Third Reference
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**Reference from the research of "Norwegian University of Science and Technology":
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This research shows an important point stated below-
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"...a new study in the journal Evolutionary Psychology has some compelling findings. The research, conducted in Norway, found that men and women fundamentally misunderstand each other:
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***She interprets his signals of sexual interest as friendliness***.
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***He reads her signals of friendliness as sexual interest***..."[3]
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So, simply we can say, when boy-friend is with her girl-friend, the boy-friend tries to impress her whereas the girl-friend wants to enjoy his companionship.
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But when the girl is mixing freely with her boy-friend, the boy-friend is thinking that she has become sexually attracted to her, whereas the girl prefers to accept that her boy-friend is just showing friendly behaviour to her.
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Here, in above explanation, we have seen from Kamasutra that male is instantly attracted (sexually) to the female, but female does not get such instant attraction.
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Now in this second reference, we are observing the effect;
that male(for instant sexual desire) wants to impress the female and if the female accompanies with her male friend, he wants to feel that her girl-friend is attracted to her.
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Whereas the girl-friend(for her slow increasing sexual desire) wants to feel that her boy-friend is becoming friendly with her.
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***But another research revealed the evil desire of such females(which can not be understood from outside) who want to say that - "we are just friends, nothing else; why you have such dirty thinking in your mind" !!
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***Though a girl prefers to accept her male companion just as friend only, she may hardly accept the truth that there also creates an hidden desire in her mind for her boy-friend or male companion.***
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***The research of The University of Chicago (Institute for Mind and Biology) says,
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"These correlations support the validity of the behavioral rating scales by demonstrating that
**the female confederates were able to accurately detect those behaviors that were associated
with participants’(male participants') romantic interest in them.**"[4]
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So, we see, in this research, the female participants could perfectly detect the romantic behaviour of the male participants (with whom they did a free conversation for the sake of the research).
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[To know the details of this research, check the the link in the reference no 4 below]
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From this research, we can easily conclude that ***while mixing freely with the boy-friend or male companion, the female can identify her boy-friend's romantic attempt for impressing her and so she enjoys his companionship giving the excuse that they are just friends, nothing else !!***
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I wonder, how dare they say such thing as *PURE* !!!
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Not only this! There's something left.
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The research also shows that the sexual hormone of male responses intensely due to being close to the female.
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It is mentioned in the research paper like this way:
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"This study represents one of the first attempts to assess hormonal and behavioral reactions of men to brief interactions with women. Results were generally consistent with the possibility of a mating response in human males.
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***Men in the female condition showed a significant increase in testosterone*** over baseline levels and were rated as having expressed more polite interest and display behaviors than were men in the male condition.
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In addition, those men who were rated as having directed **more courtship-like behaviors** toward their female conversation partners also showed more positive changes in T levels and rated the female confederates as **more attractive romantic partners**. No such relationships were significant in the male condition."[5]
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And more interesting fact is that the British Newspaper "Daily Mail" comments on this research in a seductive way stated below:
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"***Pretty women make a man's mouth water***
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They say the prettiest girls make men's mouths water - and now scientific research suggests that it is true.
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A study has revealed that male saliva undergoes dramatic changes during small talk with attractive young women.
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It suggests they almost start drooling during the briefest of flirtations with members of the opposite sex. And the more they try to impress, the more their saliva gives them away...."[6]
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Now, it is very clear that what a lame excuse the erotic lovers are trying to pose to hide their impurity.
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=> Why are we calling sexual relationship outside marriage as "Impure" ???
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Now, when we prove that free-mixing of opposite gender is the source of impurity, then some shameless people may further question us,
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***"What is the problem of sexual relationship if both male and female are agreed to each other?"***
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For them, we have also response.
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But before giving the logic, let us clarify a point.
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When you people say that sex outside marriage is pure, then you want to mean that there is no problem in this case.
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Like this way, when we say that sexual desire outside marriage is impure, we try to indicate that surely there creates a huge problem regarding the permission of Adultery, Fornication, Homosexuality and so on.
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But today in modern society, physical relationship outside marriage has become a common issue.
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So to judge it as good or bad, first forget all religious or national laws.
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i. Now if adultery, fornication, homosexuality are okay, then if a couple does such physical act, that is also okay.
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ii. If another couple does the same, it’s also okay.
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iii. So based on above two points, if the two groups change their partners among each other and do such physical act, it’s also okay.
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iv.Then based on above points, if anyone does physical relationship with anybody willingly, it will also be correct.
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Now if this is going on, then the amount of married spouses and children with good and perfect mentality will be lessening. So in future, the amount of engineers, doctors, sociologists, scientists, good leaders, good inhabitants etc will also be decreasing and society will be broken.Then human civilization will gradually be damaged and the world will be unsuitable for living.
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And such evil process can be stopped, if we can solve the root problem of the starting of such destruction.
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And the root problem is the free-mixing of opposite gender from which erotic and impure attraction starts to increase and impure relationship gradually builds up more and more in the society.
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So let us change ourselves from now. It is high time to realise the true path which may take us close to the perfect purity and peace.
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May peace, mercy and blessing of Almighty Creator be upon all of you.
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We will end the article with a verse from Arabic Scripture,
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"No man is alone with a woman but the Evil is the third one present."[7]
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References:
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[1] http://www.sacred-texts.com/sex/kama/kama201.htm
[2] http://www.sacred-texts.com/sex/kama/kama201.htm
[3] https://m.mic.com/articles/109480/science-shows-why-it-seems-impossible-for-men-and-women-to-just-be-friends#.qjDUrq2E7
[4] https://labs.psych.ucsb.edu/roney/james/other%20pdf%20readings/reserve%20readings/ehb.pdf
[5] https://labs.psych.ucsb.edu/roney/james/other%20pdf%20readings/reserve%20readings/ehb.pdf
[6] http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-201319/Pretty-women-make-mans-mouth-water.html
[7] Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1171) and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi
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Also thanks to Arif Azad (A Bengali writer) for providing some important links regarding the research of The University of Chicago}>>>