Marriage is the half solution of righteousness... You have to struggle to get the full....

You may be confused to read the title. What does it mean as "half solution", isn't it?
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Let us see.
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Surely marriage is an obligatory deed in Islam as it is commanded both in Quran and Hadith. But once we think about marriage, we overlook an important issue which is very serious. What is that?
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And that is - marriage is not the full solution of your righteousness! Yeah, we know that you are yet confused. So let us see something deeply.
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=> What happens before marriage?:
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Suppose, a boy and a girl want to marry each other. Both of them are virgin. Naturally both of them will be very excited for their newly married life. Isn't it? Yeah surely.
They may think from their early life about a partner with whom he/she can live happily. So when they find their partner and get the chance to marry each other, they become very excited for that.
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=> What happens just after the marriage is done?:
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When the marriage is done, the newly married couple naturally becomes close to each other and they enjoy their moment of newly married life. They become very close to each other to find joy for quite a few days or weeks or months.
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=> What happens after some years of marriage?:
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i. Lossing of excitement:
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When some years have passed away after marriage, the married couple finds their life as usual. They were very excited and joyful before marriage and just after marriage; but when some years have passed and they get a child, their married experience turns into lossing of excitement and they become accustomed to their normal way of life.
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ii. Boredom of casual life:
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While the life becomes as usual, the couple starts to feel a boring life which is not joyful at all. They may not find happiness with their partner and start to find faults in his/her works and behaviour.
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iii. Increasing of impure attraction:
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Because of such boredom of life, the husband and wife (individually) begin to find pleasure in other ways. So they find good things in other people. The husband may see good qualities in other women and the wife may find good things in other men. From this point of view, there creates an hidden impure attraction towards the opposite gender in the mind of the both husband and wife.
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Now let's come to the conclusion, from the above explanation, we see that the marriage is made exciting from the beginning and becomes boring after some years.
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So here the newly married life becomes only a issue to fulfill the physical & mental desire.
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That is why when people do not find enjoyment after some years of marriage, they start to find pleasure in other place and today we are seeing the outcome is there. Many people are married, yet they have their boy-friend or girl-friend and they are involved in illicit relationship with their illegal partner and become used to do adultery, fornication etc.
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For this reason, we have to remember that surely marriage is very important because it helps us to decrease our impure attraction towards opposite gender. But it is not sufficient for us to be fully righteous.
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Al-Haakim narrated in al-Mustadrak from Anas, in a marfoo’ report:
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“Whomever Allaah blesses with a *righteous wife*, He has helped him with **half of his religion**, so let him fear Allaah with regard to the other half.”
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Al-Bayhaqi narrated in Shu’ab al-Eemaan from al-Raqaashi:
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“When *a person gets married* he has completed **half of his religion**, so let him fear Allaah with regard to the other half.” Al-Albaani said of these two hadeeths in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb (1916): “(They are) hasan li ghayrihi.”
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But fulfilling the half of religion does not mean that there is no chance for you to be involved in illicit relationship. Today if we look around us, huge amount of married couple are doing adultery and fornication. That's why, married couples today are not finding peace and so marriages are being broken often.
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For this reason, we say, marriage is the half solution of righteousness, but you have to struggle to get the full.
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=> So, let us not be addicted to the worldly enjoyment.
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=> Let us not find fault of others, but let's find fault of our own.
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=> Let us try to maintain our life fully in the way & guidance of Quran and sunnah.
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=> And above all, let us be satisfied with what we have and be thankful to Allah and pray to Him always for proper guidance.
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We have to remember that this temporary worldly life is only a test for hereafter.
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May Allah make all of us successful in duniya and akhirah. Ameen. Summa Ameen.
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"O you who have believed, let not your wealth and your children divert you from remembrance of Allah . And whoever does that - then those are the losers."
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(The Noble Quran, 63:9)